Sex Over 40: Why Is It Different and How Can I Make It Better?

Remember sex ed back in middle school? You were super interested but also embarrassed and they really just taught you how not to get pregnant or contract an STD… it certainly was NOT about how to enjoy sex. Even as adults, discussing sex is not easy.

Before this interview with Raylene Taskoski, I posted an anonymous survey where you could post questions and wow! We got some great questions….. Everything from “how do I approach my husband about spicing it up in the bedroom” to “how do I deal with vaginal dryness and low libido”?

We discussed all of this and more. Raylene makes it feel like you are talking to a girlfriend over some cocktails. I learned a lot and hope you will as well. The main thing I hope you take away from this talk is that whatever problem or issue or question you have, you are completely normal. I guarantee you that someone else is having the same issue. And whatever if working for you and your partner (or you solo!), is normal. If that is sex every day — great. If it’s no sex at all — equally great if it is work feels right for both of you.

I encourage you to watch the video. And I even better, watch it with your partner so it sparks some good conversation.

Here are some of the topics we discussed:

  • Lubrication – by far this is the question Raylene gets more than any other and the one answer that is a big game changer. We discuss what kind to use and how to use it.
  • Foreplay – Raylene shared a clitoris model so we could see how little of the clitoris is exposed and why it takes a woman longer to achieve orgasm.
  • Communication – You can’t expect your partner to know you like something unless you tell him. We discussed how to better communicate to your partner what works and what does not.

what you gotta do is starfish

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